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Essay: Write a 3-part assertive statement to a teacher who falsely accused you of turning in your homework late.
Student Answer: “When you [state the behavior nonjudgmentally], I feel [disclose your feelings] because [clarify the effect on your life]”
In the first part, you state the behavior in a nonjudgemental way. You don’t accuse or attack, you just say what they did.
When you don’t help with the dishes…
In the second part, you say how it makes you feel.
I feel frustrated…
In the third part, you clarify the effect on your life.
because it creates extra work I have to do.
Here are two more examples:
When you do not correct the kids for their negative behavior, I feel angry because it makes me look like the bad guy when I do correct them.
When you turn in your reports late, I feel irritated because it puts me behind in my work. |
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Essay: Write a 3-part assertive statement to a friend who keeps making plans with you and then cancelling at the last minute.
Student Answer: I tend to take my commitments pretty seriously. When I say I’m going to be somewhere, I’m there. It could be a running date, a coffee meeting with someone in my network or just drinks with friends.
My infrequent canceling’s due in large part to the fact that I try not to over-commit. It used to be fun to fill my calendar weeks in advance—that is, until the actual jam-packed week arrived, at which point, I would look at each day with impending dread as I stressed being over-tired, spent and terrible company. Planning was fun, following through wasn’t. And so I learned to dial back. |
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Essay: When you choose to be assertive, you won't always get everything you want. With that in mind, why should you still choose to communicate assertively? Provide two reasons.
Student Answer: Being assertive is a core communication skill. Assertiveness can help you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view. It can also help you do this while respecting the rights and beliefs of others.
Being assertive can also help boost your self-esteem and earn others' respect. This can help with stress management. It may especially help you reduce stress if you tend to take on too many responsibilities because you have a hard time saying no.
Some people seem to be naturally assertive. But if you're not assertive, you can learn to be. |
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